Friends and Acquaintances: Accused Killer in Wilton Slay Was Heavy Drug User

A former self-described 'drug friend' of accused killer Aaron Ramsey says in all their years of substance abuse, he never saw Ramsey become violent.


People who claim to know the 22-year-old Wilton resident police say  describe Aaron Ramsey as a troubled youth intensely involved in a Wilton drug scene but who rarely, if ever, displayed the kind of violence that would suggest he was capable of homicide.

Michael Avedis, 22, described himself and Ramsey as “drug friends” who spent time together “on and off” since Ramsey was a freshman at until about one year ago, when Avedis severed ties with Ramsey and others to get clean. 

Avedis said he "never could have expected" the events police say transpired Thursday.

“He never had anything remotely toward violent tendencies at all,” Avedis recalled. “He never got in trouble. I never saw him come close to being mad ... I never saw any instability in that kid, ever."

“He was very friendly to me and seemed like a pretty decent dude,” Avedis added.

In a gruesome killing that has , police say Ramsey confessed to beating his 73-year-old father, Edward, with a bench and then stabbing him multiple times after hearing voices, according to affidavits cited by the Wilton Bulletin. Covered in blood himself, Ramsey was picked up by police from a nearby home after trying to break into a car, officials say. , Ramsey has been charged with murder and held on $1 million bond.

A woman who is identified by an emergency dispatcher as "Mrs. Ramsey" during the 911 call that led to Aaron Ramsey's arrest, can be heard saying that her son may have been “on drugs” and had been “acting strange” for more than one week, but there had been no acts of aggression.

During Ramsey's arraignment, a representative from the state Bond Commissioner's office said Ramsey has two prior convictions in Connecticut for possession of marijuana and driving while his license was suspended. He said Ramsey was also convicted in New York for possession of marijuana.

Three former Wilton High School students who claim to have direct knowledge of Ramsey and who spoke to Patch on the condition that their names were not used, say Ramsey's drug use was well known. One of those former schoolmates who claims direct knowledge of Ramsey said he ran with a "sketchy crowd" but also appeared to be a "clear-headed guy" who was "pretty quiet" and nice.

None knew of any issues between Ramsey and his father.

Ramsey never complained about his family life or hinted at any familial trouble, Avedis said, but acknowledged it was never something they really discussed. 

“You know, guys don’t like to talk about their feelings and [expletive], and he never really told me anything," Avedis said.

Avedis said the pair used drugs in the school building or on school grounds.

"We would step outside or go into the bathroom," Avedis recalled. Avedis said he was one year ahead of Ramsey at the high school.

“We would be doing coke off science books [from] science class” during Ramsey's freshman year, Avedis said.

Avedis was expelled from the high school halfway through his own sophomore year, when he was 16, he said. Originally from Norwalk, Avedis said he completed his education at a Vermont boarding school, and did not see Ramsey again until Avedis came back to Wilton about three years later. Avedis himself was arrested on of narcotics within a school zone. Then 19 and out of school, Avedis said he spent a few months in prison before release into a rehabilitation program.

Upon release, Avedis and Ramsey became intertwined again in their drug use, Avedis said, painting a picture that was far different from the one captured in the Wilton High School yearbook, which shows Ramsey played varsity football before graduating with the Class of 2008.

Avedis said he had never been to Ramsey’s home on Signal Hill, which has an unusual, dome-shaped roof structure. Edward Ramsey purchased the home—assessed at $736,260, according to tax records—eleven years ago.

The last time Avedis spoke to Ramsey was around “10 or 11 months ago” when Avedis cut ties with Ramsey and all others whom he had used drugs with.

Ramsey, he said, “sounded fine.”


*Editors note: There were two photos accompanying this article which were labeled to be from Aaron Ramsey’s 2008 high school graduation tribute page, but this turned out to be incorrect: One half of the yearbook page was for Aaron Ramsey while the other half of the page was another individual. However, due to a printing error made in the 2008 Wilton Yearbook, this person’s half page was not clearly separated because it contained no information/tribute quotes about this other individual. This individual had nothing to do with any information gathered for this article. We apologize for the error. 

Craig Donofrio May 07, 2012 at 07:44 PM
If you or anyone reading this would like to speak with me about your thoughts/comments about drug use at Wilton High School for an upcoming article, please contact me at Craig.Donofrio@patch.com, preferably as soon as possible. Thank you.
Christine E. May 07, 2012 at 08:21 PM
I'm pretty sure Craig is only doing what his superiors are asking of him. I grew up in Ridgefield, and while I am so grateful to have been brought up in such a wonderful community...we had our fair share of problems in High School that I felt were brushed under the rug simply to avoid putting a blemish on a good reputation. I vividly remember three of my classmates playing hookie, overdosing on drugs and ending up in the hospital - one of them in a coma for days. One of the kids was in several of my classes...and when a student had asked about what was happening, they were quickly told not to talk about it. I remember feeling very uneasy. Teenage years are delicate, and we had a lot of questions that went unanswered. This was 13 years ago, and I can't imagine what it must be like now. Teenagers won't always tell their parents what they would tell other adults that they trust...but what kind of message are we sending if we discourage open dialogue about very real situations? It always seems in tragedies like this, the adults are 'shocked' but the kids knew all along. I can't help but wonder how many lives could be saved if we just simply stopped worrying about reputation and just started listening. Just my opinion.
JMO_Wilton May 07, 2012 at 08:33 PM
Drugs, suicide, alcohol. These are the taboos of suburban life. Never shall you talk about it, because if you do, people will think less of you and yours. I have lived in Fairfield County my whole life (I am 40), and the situation has always been the same. It isn't just a "Wilton Problem". This is a problem of modern society. People care more about "perception" than "character", more about "what looks right" than "what is right".
Jlo May 07, 2012 at 08:36 PM
Considering that various reasons for his actions have been presented (a psychotic break, drugs, abuse) I think this article was completely justified as it at least gives a window into why he may have done what he did. It also, like others have pointed out, opens up a meaningful discussion about the drug culture in Wilton schools.
Jlo May 07, 2012 at 08:40 PM
Many people drink and use drugs with in some form or another, but I can assure you that cutting loose with a bottle of wine and a joint once in a while is much different than tending to a serious pcp, heroin, or cocaine habit. You do enough of that junk and you will literally fry your brain.
NewCanaanVoter May 07, 2012 at 08:55 PM
@Jlo Actually heroin does not cause mental illness or brain damage no matter how much you do, even for heavy longterm use. The only way you can get brain damage from heroin is if you stop breathing.
Lee Aydelotte May 07, 2012 at 08:58 PM
Christine - Some good thoughts on this very difficult subject. I grew up in Greenwich, and have some very big opinions on Fairfield County in general. I spoke with Craig, and I have no problem being quoted on this issue. Too much money, no family time. Who is accountable here, the parents! Every weekend there is an obligation to one sport or another....when do these kids have family time!!? "hey Mom, I need $50"..and they get it with no accountability of where it is spent. Personally, I'd ask, give me a receipt. You need money to buy drugs..and stucture to survive in todays world. Somehow (and yes I DO believe it's Fairfield county), folks have seemed to lose the concept of what life is really all about. BTW - I bailed on Wilton 2 years ago, it's the best thing I ever did. Next up, my son! I want him out of there.
The Watcher May 08, 2012 at 01:39 AM
I went through Brookfield schools and even i knew how bad the drug use is in Wilton. Those kids aren't smoking weed or drinking beers in the back yard, they're into hardcore drugs/designer drugs. they're like the kids from the movie "traffic"
Cindy Adams May 08, 2012 at 02:11 AM
Do you know ANYTHING about journalism Suzanne???
Amo Probus May 08, 2012 at 10:30 AM
Of what use is a McMansion, lux cars and a vacation home if you don't /can't raise your own to become self-sufficient, intellectually curious and caring adults. Do we routinely drug test teachers and administrators? Are they all positive "role models?"
Alethiologist May 08, 2012 at 11:08 AM
Compare and contrast all the reporting on the Ramsey family disaster to the silence on the accident that killed a motorcyclist by a student who was texting while making a sudden turn cutting him off....
KEW May 08, 2012 at 11:08 AM
Who's brilliant idea was it to get the facts about a young man who clearly has some psychological issues from a recovering drug addict? Seriously!? And anything he may have done his freshman year of high school was 8 years ago, come on people. Have some compassion.
NewCanaanVoter May 08, 2012 at 02:26 PM
nope May 09, 2012 at 12:09 AM
Tim Wood did NOT die of a drug overdose. He was hit by a drunk driver. Please get your names straight before posting such things.
Mark Shallin May 09, 2012 at 12:20 AM
The fundamental question should really be, "Why are our children turning to drugs and alcohol in such epic proportions?" The real study should be to find out why middle and high school children feel that they need to self-soothe through drugs. Are we creating a young society of over achievers who really can't cope with the pressure regardless of the fact that they have just been admitted to Dartmouth and lead in team sports? Are these kids just looking for something to do in town where there really is very little entertainment value? These questions can go on and on. However, answers to these questions (and the like) would shed light on why our kids are in so deep over their heads. Let's, as adults, take responsibility for why our children are in trouble. Parents, teachers, administrators and community members should not be allowed to look the other way. It's as criminal as the children's acts could be down the road.
Mark Shallin May 09, 2012 at 01:54 AM
You all seem to be able to site names and incidents...anyone can do that after the fact from the safety of your living room...so something about it...if the Wilton boe would give me access to the gyms in town on weekends, I could make a difference...
nope May 09, 2012 at 01:58 AM
Tim Wood did NOT die of an over dose. He was hit by a drunk driver. Please get your names straight before posting such things.
whsgraduate May 09, 2012 at 03:57 AM
Mark I don't think you could help at all no offense I think you made some good points, but what you need is former WHS alumni to come back and act as pseudo guidance counselors and break these kids up into small groups of people they never interact with and talk about the drug problem. Explain that the low of these drugs outweighs the high, and you have to have self control to avoid the drugs. Explain that these drugs are in fact psychological parasites. Also explain you CAN use drugs in a spiritual/scientific way, the amazonian shamans have been doing it for over a 1000 years, but kids in wilton are not shamans. Also part of the problem I think is that wilton has a serious serious "clique" problem. In addition, parents need to stop giving their kids unlimited drug money, and stop letting their houses used for underage drinking/drug parties. Also my other comment was repeatedly deleted, basically spoke of the many drug deaths in wilton, there is a whole group of lowlifes that never amount to anything in their life. If it is true that Aaron Ramsey was using cocaine as a 13 year old, that is a new low.
LiveSimply May 09, 2012 at 02:34 PM
When we focus on test scores,standardized tests, APs, resume building, competitive sports, college placement, financial success (or at least the appearance of such) and we do not educate the whole child (values, morals, ethics, compassion, empathy and teaching that actions have consequences), we are doing our children, our families, and our community a great disservice. Where is the family time (not just carting various kids to and from sports, making sure homework is done, projects are done, and we are all getting straight As, tutoring, etc..)? Where is the down time? Where are kids being taught that actions have consequences rather than the "not my kid" approach or the making sure it is not going to appear on their resume or go to the colleges? What has happened to RAISING our kids and not blaming the schools, the police, other families? If we were all doing our part in raising our own children, we would not have the problems that we are facing right now. Just like the town vote (12% showed up) indicates, everyone assumes everyone else will do it. We need to get in tune with what is happening with our kids, our families and figure out what messages we are sending them by how we are living our lives. If we have a stressful day and the first thing we do is come home and pour ourselves a drink, we are telling them that you need to self-medicate. If we think that money equates success, they will all try to succeed at all costs - often cheating, lying and plagiarizing.
LiveSimply May 09, 2012 at 02:38 PM
We are the role models. We are the ones they try to emulate. We send powerful messages with our actions or inactions regardless of our words. We hand them technology, often with no parental controls or supervision, and give them access to things we would never expose them to without it. We need to step up and teach our children how to be better people, but first, we need to do that ourselves.
Be a parent May 09, 2012 at 04:30 PM
There are many parents in this town who have kids because it will help their career or it looks good to the people they are trying to impress. Then they hire nannies to raise their kids for them. Or they refuse to say no to their kids because they don't have time to argue with them. I know parents who give their kids anything they ask for, including booze. The parents have the attitude that their 15 year old will drink anyway so I might as well buy it for them so they don't get arrested for trying to buy booze. Several of these kids are turning out fine, in spite of their parents, others are turning into teens who think they can do anything they want and if they get into trouble, mommy and daddy will bail them out. It is time for parents to stop blaming everyone else in society for their kid's problems and it is time for them to say no when required. Until that happens, there will continue to be kid dying in Wilton from drugs.
whsgraduate May 10, 2012 at 01:48 AM
I think you need to come down from your ivory tower. I graduated from wilton high school and i saw the drug scene first hand and i know many people are are dead or in jail because of it. I think you are just part of the problem, trying to say that bringing up the drug problem is a coping/defense mechanism. Is it about time that we start talking about the issues, rather than just saying we are sorry for you loss (from a drug overdose or other) and brushing it under the carpet. you should be ashamed of yourself and you have blood on your hands lady.
Susan May 10, 2012 at 03:19 PM
Is this town still a sleep? It has been over 30 years since I've been out of high school. I use to do drugs and drink when I went there. Suicides often happened as well. ?an of the parents are so involved with working on their status they don't pay attention to their kids. When ever I got in trouble you think my parents covered up my stupidity heck no. There is so much pressure on the kids in Wilton no wonder the kids resort to drinking and drugs. Either the kids do drugs or drinking for fun or they do it to medicate themself. The ones that medicate themself are walking time bombs.
JMO_Wilton May 10, 2012 at 03:50 PM
@WHSGraduate - Please stop posting people's names on here - that is why you had your posts deleted. Beyond being horribly inappropriate, in at least one instance, you said a WHS grad and his brother died of a drug overdose. This is a blatant falsehood. The WHS Grad you speak of was killed by a drunk driver while walking on the side of the road in Florida. The driver is now in jail. These are facts. Please try to use some discretion when you post... your actions have consequences.
whsgraduate May 12, 2012 at 08:26 PM
Jmo wilton got the last name wrong it was Tim Carey and him brother both died of drug overdose who were whs graduates. Nancy capelle the blood you have on your hands is the blood of future drug overdoses.
whsgraduate May 12, 2012 at 08:31 PM
Nancy capelle I think its grotesque that you think you know more than everyone else, I actually KNOW people who are dead and in jail because of the wilton drug scene. I don't understand how you think you know anything about wilton high school because you work at a hospital, and its disgusting that you want to demonize people who actually want to talk about the drug problem.
Nick May 13, 2012 at 03:18 PM
Nancy, I look forward to the day I can read something from you that does not remind your audience of your heart attack, all the while assuming your classic Wilton 'holier than thou' attitude. And no, I'm not including your dopey attempts at creative writing...because those are unreadable.
Deb May 14, 2012 at 12:32 AM
You are a bully.
Richard Eater September 17, 2012 at 08:24 AM
I don't know how this is the first time I've come across this. And it is all way to overwhelming to read. I don't know who nancy cappelletti is but this is ferris class of 2008. I'd appreciate it if everyone refrained from passing judgment on people whom they've never spoken too. Timmr and Zid were and always will be a major part of my family. Unfortunately "modern medicine" murdered them. We have to live with the consequences of our actions. Its difficult to live with regret. It's easy to slip a pill into ur seltzer water. To all parents, anywhere. Pay attention to what is in you're medicine cabinet. Don't trust ur doctor just because he has a phx. Phd. Whoops. Drug addiction is a disease, not a crime. It's amazing to see how quickly one thing can lead to another. I see a lot of truth on this website chat room whatever u guys are callin it. Unfortunately growin up n an affluent town u have access to whatever delicious treats or candies u want. Supply and Demand. The tidal wave of shit isnt goin anywhere. Don't buy ur kid a personal trainer for his 10th birthday. Go for a walk with him er her. But what do I know I'm just a dumb kid. Peace and love to all. Especially those compassionate people that can relate to real pain. Emotional, zpychological pain. Or. Physical withdrawal for that matter. L8r sk8rz. Help those in need. Sk8 don't h8. I'm blzzd. Cya.
Richard Eater September 17, 2012 at 08:27 AM
To the author. Don't quote me boy cuz I ain't said shit.


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