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Nick Parisot is Wilton's Child

Wilton must push for resolution of the case.

When you have a child in Wilton, it’s hard not to feel something very strong about .

Because Nick Parisot was Wilton’s child.

At least, that’s what I think we should think of him as.

We should all take a look at this case, and take a closer look at ourselves, and readjust the axis of how we view it.

Nick Parisot is Wilton’s child.

What happened to Nick has been extensively . Nick Parisot was a 13-year old-boy from Wilton, just 15 days shy of his next birthday, when he was killed while riding his motor bike along trails behind Nod Hill. Nick died when he hit a rope that had been strung across the path on which he was riding. No formal criminal charges have been filed and no arrest has been made, though officials that they have a suspect.

The third anniversary of Nick's death is today.

There are children at all points of this narrative: Nick, the victim at the center of this unresolved homicide; the child to have been responsible for what happened; and, according a letter from Nick's mom that appeared in The Wilton Villager, other children who may know more information about what happened to Nick that day.

That the key figures in this tragedy are children makes the perspective of parents looking in at this all that much more complicated.

I have a son, who was born several years after Nick, but he strikes me as someone very similar to who Nick was.

My son has shaggy blonde hair, just like Nick did. He’s a spirited, independent boy, just like I’ve read that Nick was. He likes to build things and explore, just as I’ve come to learn Nick did as well.

It’s easy for me to see my family in their place and relate to the anguish Nick’s parents will always feel. We all have children that live, learn and play in this town, and as much as you may not like to, you too can likely imagine what it must feel like to be Nick’s parents.

My heart bleeds and grieves for them and their loss. I want to be part of the effort that helps them have some sort of conclusion and closure to what must be an insurmountable, unbreachable rift in the fabric of their world.

I don’t know Nick’s parents, but I’ve read recent news reports and letters that Nick’s mom has written, asking for more openness and honesty and truth from people who know more about what happened to Nick on his last day.

I can also imagine what it must feel like to be the parent of a child believed to be the one who caused another child’s death. I imagine the desire to protect your child from the repercussions that would likely follow. I try to play it out in my mind about my system of morality, and what I would hopefully do in teaching him what is right and what is wrong and how to take responsibility.

And I try to imagine what it would be like to parent a child who knows more about such events, and who could shed more light on solving the crime. I know it’s a tough position to be in, but again, if it were me I think there’s something important about doing the right thing, and teaching your child that lasting lesson.

I have to offer some disclosure: I don’t know any of the people at the center of this horrible moment. I’ve never met Nick’s parents, but I feel I have some license to write about the case publicly because I’ve read published letters they’ve written in the last three years—most recently in the last week—asking the people of Wilton to urge officials to push harder in resolving the case.

I don’t know any of the families who are said to have played other roles. I don’t know the family of the boy purported to have committed the act, nor do I know who the families are that may have more information.

I just know the tragedy it is for all of them, most of all for Nick.

It’s curious that we are a town of two Nicks. One Nick, a war hero the town pays tribute to in many ways and honors with ongoing charitable efforts. is Wilton’s son.

We need to see the other Nick as Wilton’s son as well. Nick Parisot deserves our care, tribute and honor—and he deserves resolution.

Three years ago today was a stark, dark day for Wilton. It’s a day we all lost a child of ours.

There will be a memorial for Nick Parisot on Monday evening, at 8 p.m. It will be held at Millstone farm at the cairn on the corner of Millstone Rd. and Tito Ln.

[Editor's Note: Language in this article has been updated to reflect accurately the legal status of the act described therein.]

Heidi von Hoffmann June 14, 2011 at 11:52 AM
Nick was a much loved member of Boy Scout Troop 125 and a good friend. He was a true "wind rider" and I will always treasure that image. All three of my sons knew him, particularly my oldest son who is also named Nicholas. Just the other day we were reflecting on what has shaped his own life. I asked what had been the toughest hardship he had suffered. "Losing Nick" was what he immediately answered. In fact, it was at Nicholas' 15th birthday party that year that one of his friends called with the tragic news of the accident. Celebration changed to mourning in one split second. June 13, 2008 was a dark night for us all. Sadly enough the grief that is ever present is deepened with the anguish of injustice. I implore the parents of the boys involved to consider truth. In the current frame, full disclosure and transparency may bring pain to you and your sons but it will allow healing and a new beginning for you as well as Kate and Rick. Please weigh heavily the cost of hiding deeds that most certainly occurred. These subversive actions will hold your sons captive to a choice made on an afternoon in June, when they themselves were not even teenagers. If you choose to bring the truth to light, you can give them the gift of honesty and the ability to look at themselves in the mirror when they are men. On behalf of Kate and Rick and your sons, please strongly consider making this difficult but crucial decision.
James Konatsotis June 16, 2011 at 03:33 PM
I agree with the article, we define ourselves and our community with our actions, integrity and priorities. Is there any doubt that that we must make this investigation our town's number 1 priority? Would any other parent reeling from loss want it any other way? By all newspaper accounts it appears it was a terrible prank gone horribly wrong. The deafening silence has apparently turned ill fated pranksters into murderers. Any empathy or sympathy for the future convicted has in the past three years been evaporated. Running and hiding from the truth are only temporary solutions. Let's not rest and let decades go by like the Kelly and Skakel investigations. Let's keep the pressure on the Local and State investigators to keep moving forward with all the resources available.
Heather Wilcauskas June 16, 2011 at 08:34 PM
Very eloquent and well said. Although we do not know the family personally, our family supports the Parisot family and implore those with information to come forward.
Jonathan Devens June 12, 2012 at 01:05 AM
I never knew Nick, but I have a message for those that are responsible and/or those that know the responsible parties; "A hero dies but once, a coward a thousand times" The people/person who did this, and those that protect the responsible party(s)- are COWARDS. Cowardly in the act, and cowardly in the behavior since.
Joe R U Kidding June 13, 2012 at 09:57 PM
What do the kids who know what happened, but say nothing, do when the demons come at night ? Surely they must re-live that horrific afternoon every night - like a Twilight Zone episode. This will haunt them and manifest itself in horrible psycological ways - if they don't come forward. And if they are only teenagers now - that is a long time to go with out a good night's sleep.

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