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Chick-fil-Ewwww!

As I’ve taught my children to say when they don't like a meal they've been served, here’s my take on the anti-gay bigotry of Chick-fil-A: “No thank you, I prefer something else.”

Editor’s note: Yesterday, our 'Patch Back' columnist Lisa Bigelow presented about the Chick-fil-A controversy; today, 'Patch In' columnist Heather Borden Herve offers a counterpoint opinion.

The recent barnyard brawling over the anti-gay stance of Chick-fil-A has certainly raised a commotion in the hen-house. Squawking and cackles erupted over news of statements made by the fast food eatery’s president/COO Dan Cathy, who seemed to publicly embrace that position after growing attention focused on donations the company makes to anti-gay groups.

In an interview, Cathy told the Baptist Press, “We are very much supportive of the family – the biblical definition of the family unit. We are a family-owned business, a family-led business, and we are married to our first wives. We give God thanks for that. We operate as a family business ... our restaurants are typically led by families; some are single. We want to do anything we possibly can to strengthen families. We are very much committed to that.”

In another interview, Cathy reiterated his belief:  “I think we are inviting God’s judgment on our nation when we shake our fist at Him and say, ‘We know better than you as to what constitutes a marriage.’ I pray God’s mercy on our generation that has such a prideful, arrogant attitude to think that we have the audacity to define what marriage is about.”

Just in case it wasn’t explicitly clear, Cathy was blunt about describing the company’s support of ‘traditional’ marriage, “Guilty as charged.”

Cathy, the son of Chick-fil-A’s founder, made these statements after reports surfaced that the company, via its charitable arm, made close to $2 million in donations to groups actively working to discriminate against homosexuals and the LGBT community, including making some behaviors illegal and criminal, here and abroad. The issue at hand isn’t just about gay marriage, but also about employment, life choices, health insurance and, in some cases, survival.

Let's be very clear about the brouhaha raised after Cathy’s comments:  This is NOT a first amendment issue; it’s really a civil rights issue. When you have an organization contributing money to groups actively engaged in trying to disenfranchise, segregate and isolate—let alone strip away civil rights from citizens—it is clearly a civil rights issue.

I emphatically contend that Cathy is entitled both to his opinion and his freedom to express it. In fact, I’m gratified that he has expressed it, because now we know where we stand, with him and with his company. His statements demonstrate his prejudices and bigotry, and they shed light on the discriminatory efforts his company’s profits support.

I’m perplexed by the contradictory nature of Cathy’s statement, characterizing those who have the ‘audacity to define what marriage is about’ as ‘prideful’ and ‘arrogant.’ Isn’t that exactly what Cathy was doing? Defining what marriage should be—between a man and a woman?

Protesters speaking out and demonstrating against those views are not intolerant of them. They are merely expressing their own view, that discrimination and segregation—whether cloaked in religious, moral or first amendment arguments—is still bigotry.

Imagine learning that KFC contributes to organizations campaigning for outlawing marriage between men and women of different races, based on arguments of sanctity or morality. Imagine discovering that the president of Taco Bell donates significant company profits to organizations that campaign for removing tax-exempt status of churches and synagogues, because of his interpretation of the phrase, ‘separation of church and state.’ If those moves were true, we’d certainly classify them as bigotry. So too, can we call Chick-fil-A’s actions as bigoted.

I’m glad to see that there have been mounting boycotts and protests against Chick-fil-A’s corporate dealings. They are not intolerant of someone else’s opinions or religious beliefs. Instead, such protests demonstrate an intolerance of intolerance itself, akin to those that that advanced civil rights legislation forward 50-60 years ago, and beyond. They harken back to sit-ins, Rosa Parks, abolitionists, Stonewall and women suffragists. We have a national history of accomplishing legislative equality and increasing public support in this way—that, to me, is more American than anything else.

In this case, like the others, it’s also tantamount to standing up to a bully.

But if we’re searching for some sort of religious foundation for condemning Chick-fil-A and Dan Cathy, perhaps we should look no further than the Golden Rule which, in addition to having some basis in all of the world’s major religions and ethical traditions, is a major tenet of Christianity:  “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” It’s also expressed: “Love your neighbor as you would yourself.”

Isn’t that the most traditional value of all?

Del Dridle August 08, 2012 at 12:58 PM
Get that Revolting Pitcure Off Your Story. Who wants to see that garbage. Your strores are boring and always narcissitic.
EMR August 08, 2012 at 01:58 PM
Look, gay marriage is just fine. Just don't flaunt oversexed moments of mutual love in front of everyone especially children. Same goes for straight relationships. Just do it in private. Amazing all the Southern Christian hippocrates out there.
ConcernedWiltonite August 08, 2012 at 02:05 PM
Well, for any who thought intolerance was one sided, or didnt exist in Wilton, please reference comment above.
Rascals Wolf August 08, 2012 at 02:35 PM
This article is well written. Religion seems to bring out the best of intolerance. Why aren't ppl concerned just about their own lives? Leave others alone.
Kit August 08, 2012 at 05:05 PM
"I do not agree with what you have to say, but I'll defend to the death your right to say it." Voltaire In any democracy the First Amendment must trump political correctness.
A sarcastic man August 08, 2012 at 06:42 PM
I was shocked when someone asked a CEO of a company that isn't open on Sunday, donates millions of dollars to Christian foundations, and is based out of Atlanta that he was against the idea of gay marriage. Who would of tought?
Rascals Wolf August 08, 2012 at 08:45 PM
Well, there will be plenty of room in the fictitious places above and below, this incorrect definition of what makes a family, is just another good reason not to consume their product nor support their establishment.
Amo Probus August 08, 2012 at 10:42 PM
But that did not stop you from intruding on someone else's notion of their own lives.
Noah Fence August 08, 2012 at 11:29 PM
Most people in Fairfield County don’t have to work very hard to boycott Chic-fil-A: The closest locations in adjacent states are in Boston and Manhattan. And if you’re in Boston or Manhattan and the best place you could find to eat is Chic-fil-A, you have far larger problems than most people do.
Rascals Wolf August 09, 2012 at 12:53 AM
@sarcastic Amo p , You and ppl like you just can't help it....the morality police!
Amo Probus August 09, 2012 at 03:06 AM
rw why are you so intolerant of people with views different from yours
Will Tonian August 09, 2012 at 10:32 PM
Lisa Bigelow's column>Heather Borden Herve's blog
Franklin Wong August 10, 2012 at 02:12 AM
God's. Judgement...divine retribution....the wrath of god. to the religious this speaks to violence and punishment. To the faithful it is the punishment of the unfaithful. Freedom of speech and expression ceases with the prompting and advocating of violence.
Heather Strikes (OUT) Again August 13, 2012 at 03:36 PM
HBH - I thought we already covered this ad nauseum ... Write a review on Chick-Fil-A restaurants and menu items if you want, but don't try to reach much further than that. You do a disservice to both the Straight and LGBT communities - no small task - so well done I guess ... I am sure KFC and Taco Bell would be thrilled that you have pulled them into this issue by your musings as well. Many nice families own those franchises and work darn hard to offer a quality product and provide for their families. Perhaps you want to pick on the BP stations in the area next. No doubt those station owners were "in on the plot" to create a big Pipeline break. Heck, go after Flo at Wells Fargo. She probably was responsible for the whole Real Estate debacle in Fairfield County and the Mortgage Bond mess... I would be more interested in hearing how your Rabbi feels on this particular issue. Also the Monsignor at Lady of Fatima, the Rectors of the Congregational and Espicapalian churches in town. But that is probably too much work - so never mind ... But I digress ... what do you think of the salt content in the Bow Tie Theater popcorn ?? Too much, too little or 2 thumbs up ?
Heather Strikes (OUT) Again August 13, 2012 at 03:42 PM
And super picture by the way. In the old days "Sit ins" involved sitting. Now apparently you have to make out with your "partner" to get your point across... Would that activity have helped or hurt the civil rights movement of the 60's ? That is a general question open for general comment. It is not a request for HBH to contemplate and write an article on !!
Voice of Reason August 16, 2012 at 11:08 PM
The real victim here is that poor cow depicted in the photo above. The police, while investigating the graffiti, probably herded all the local cows into the station and are grilling them as we speak.

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